Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Stress and Pregnancy

An article in the Wall Journal tells us that most types of stress that bother expectant mothers is relatively harmless for the unborn child but certain kinds of stress can be harmful to the child. What do you think is most harmful?

Stress about money?

Stress about work issues?

Stress about housework?

The answer is, "None of these issues". The most harmful stress comes from within and it has to do with anxiety about the child. So, if you are worried about your baby, get some help. But first, read the story.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Marriage and Conflict

Conflict is normal

Misery is optional

Why, then, do we so often allow conflict to become miserable in our marriage and family life?

Dr. John Gottman has done research with hundreds of couples. He hooks them up to heart and brain wave monitors and asks them to plan some simple activity. In a few minutes Dr. Gottman can see if the couple is likely to divorce or stay married.

How does he do that? Do they threaten divorce or indicate a low interest in the marriage?

Nope! They do not know how to handle even simple differences.

In making a decision about the time to leave for a meeting they will attack each other and develop an attitude. If the couple tends to attack rather than attend, the marriage will probably not last.

How about you? Can you disagree while being agreeable? If not you may end up in court.

Or, do you find yourself Defending Yourself and Offending your Spouse?

Why make yourself and the person you love miserable?