Why Commitment?

Question: In this day and time of fluid relationships and a seeming lack of long term loyalties, why are we setting up a blog to focus on "Committed Couples"? Isn't that going to be a tough sell to many people, especially the younger generations?

Answer: Yes, it might be a tough sell.

Question: Then why try to sell it?

Answer: I am a family therapist who sees the wreckage's in the lives of both adults and kids that come from a lack of commitment.

Question: Give me an example or two.

Answer: Gladly. A very high percentage of adult diseases are correlated with the loss of a parent by death, divorce, drugs, imprisonment or mental illness. Highly committed couples manage to stay together and provide a healthier environment for their children, thus reducing diseases in those kids as they age.

Question: What kinds of diseases?

Answer: Not all diseases have been studied but ever one that has been shows a correlation with what is called, Adverse Childhood Events. Diseases related to smoking, alcoholism, drugs have an especially high correlation with the ACE markers.

Question: Is that the primary reason for you to promote Couple Commitment?

Answer: Not the only reason. A lack of Commitment to marriage, for example, tends to lead to almost instant poverty for mothers and their children. If we want to prevent poverty we must increase the percentage of healthy, committed couples.

Question: That is all the time we have. Maybe we can discuss these issues further.

Answer: That is a good idea. Let's return to this important topic later.